When Things Come to an End, It is Just the Beginning
"Get over it"
"You'll get past it"
"It's only a phase, it'll fade"
Yes. We know that already don't we? That it'll pass, that it'll fade, and that we need and WANT to get over it - but it's always easier said than done. I've also found that if you don't address the pain, and simply push it back and forget about it, it will return ten times more painful.
You need to acknowledge and accept it.
Easy to say? Yes.
Easy to do? No.
But if I speak from my own experience, when something tries to knock me down, that is one of the biggest signs that something great is on it's way. When something tries to knock you down, and it fails to stop you from moving, you become stronger. You have gotten through this alive. And before I know it, as long as I keep my mind open to new experiences, something great is delivered to me. I've noticed that after a heartbreak, people feel as though they have lost a piece of themselves. That this person has taken with them a piece of you...
Yet sometimes these people forget that they have been walking on their own two feet from the beginning by themselves.
They forget that they have smiled, laughed, had fun, and have flourished before this person ever stepped into their life.
That someone leaving is not in fact a loss, but a path that has opened so many more doors in life.
You may have believed that this person was 'The One' for you, but if they walked away, that is your closure. Your 'One' will walk, run, skip alongside your journey of life, making it even more fulfilling than it already is. Your 'One' is not the missing piece of your puzzle, but is the person that compliments your wholeness in so many ways. They will boost and support you, whilst you boost and support them. They will not take anything away from you, leaving you empty, but you both will journey life together and discover new things together. You won't have to worry about them leaving out of the blue, because you know they love you, and they know you love them all the same...
And I understand that it's hard. The pain may be unreal. However, use this time wisely. What happens next is also dependent on how you decide to use your time, and your beliefs about the situation. It is through my breakups that I have realised my new potentials, new strength, and new perspectives. It is through the breakups that we can reflect on ourselves. We can analyse what did and did not work that wasn't so obvious whilst we were in the relationship. Take your time to get out your sadness of the breakup, but realise that you are lovable. You are more than worthy of love. You are loved. Have faith in yourself.
Remember to keep yourself open to the prospect of love, because unless you are open, you will never be able to accept all the great things that love has to offer. If you are stuck in a cycle of a specific type of relationships, reflect and look back. What can be changed? Why does it keep reoccurring? Look within yourself. Being in a bad string of breakups can take a toll on one's self-confidence and self-esteem, dampening any hope of getting to a fulfilling relationship. Don't think to yourself "this will happen to me forever", because the world does not work like that. Everything is temporary. So instead of accepting the fact that you are destined for bad relationships, reflect on it. REALLY reflect on the situation and yourself. Dig deep. Realise your worth, potential, and amazing qualities.
You are definitely not alone. This is just your beginning. Great things await you!
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